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1MadeforresilienceThewhat,why,&howtosurvive&thriveinsufferingSueSchlesman,ROAR20112Whatareyoutryingtopressthroughrightnow?3theGOALofresilience:ButonethingIdo:forgettingwhatisbehind&strainingtowardwhatisahead,IpressontowardthegoaltowintheprizeforwhichGodhascalledmeheavenwardinChristJesus.Philippians3:13-164“Liveuptowhatyou’vealreadyattained.”(Phil.3:16)●“Liveupto”=Proceedasasoldier,marchon,goonprosperously,followone’sexample●“Havealreadyattained”=tocomebeforehand,toprecede,toanticipate,toreach(v.16)--wehavealreadyattained“theresurrectionofthedead.”Wehavealreadywon--wehavetheabilitytopersevere,rebound,pursue,strive,attain,&thrive.5Whatdoyouwanttoattain?SignificanceSafetyLegacyRespectHappinessLoveAcceptanceSecurityPeaceBelongingAdventurematurity6Resilienceisattainable.Youcansurvive&thrive.Youdon’thavetoquitorsettleforbeingmiserableorfake.Youweremadeforresilience.7Thewhat,why,&howofresilience1.Whatisresilience?2.WhydoIneedresilience?3.HowdoIdevelopresilience?8Whatisresilience?●ThepowerorabilityofaMATERIALtoreturntoitsoriginalform,position,etc.afterbeingbent,compressed,orstretched●TheabilityofaPERSONtoadjusttoorrecoverreadilyfromillness,adversity,majorlifechanges,etc.●TheabilityofaSYSTEMororganizationtorespondtoorrecoverreadilyfromacrisis,disruptiveprocess,etc.9Colossians1:11Beingstrengthenedwithallpoweraccordingtohisgloriousmightsothatyoumayhavegreatenduranceandpatience,&joyfullygivingthankstothefather,whohasqualifiedyoutoshareintheinheritanceofthesaintsinthekingdomoflight.10Resilienceistheacceptanceofsuffering&theadaptationtoit.11Whydoyouneedresilience?It’showyourBODYadaptstosuffering.Yourbodycopeswithpain.●Youaregeneticallywiredtoheal●Youhavenaturalsurvivalstrategiestohandlefear,grief,pain,shock,&trauma:○Fight○Flight(fight&flightarehomeostatic)○Freeze(sympathetic)○Fawn(forcodependency)●Yourbodyautomaticallyrespondstotraumawhenyouperceiveathreat;yourbodyiswiredtohelpyougetthroughtraumawithoutthinkingaboutwhattodo●Sustainedsufferingcreatesaheavinessinyourbody&mind12Dr.peterlevine:biologically-basedresilience●Traumahappens“whenwe’refrightenedoroverwhelmedbeyondourcapacitytorebound”●Resilienceisthecapacitytorebound;“it’salwaystherewantingtocomeintocompletion”●Whentraumadoesn’tgetresolved,westayinthatstate;traumacausesemotionalandphysicaldiseases●Traumausesupourreservecapacitytorebound○Respondsthroughourautonomic(involuntary)nervoussystem:homeostatic(normaladaptations)orsympathetic(perceivedthreatoractualthreat)13Resilience:yourspiritcancopewithfear●Godiswithusinthevalley(Ps.23:4)●Oursufferingsaretemporary(2Cor.4:16-18)●Ourtrialsaremeanttogrowus(Jms.1:2-4)●PrayeristhegatewaytoadeeprelationshipwithGod&anacceptanceoftrials(Ps.17:6)●Lamentistheavenueforanger,fear,&confusion(Ps.34:17)●Acounselorortherapistcanhelpyouunderstand&reboundfromyourtrials(Prov.11:14)14Prayer:worship&acceptanceofsuffering●7typesofprayershelpyoudevelopresilience:○Praise○Confession○Lamentation○Thanksgiving○Request○Intercession○Spiritualwarfare●TurningtoGodwithyoursufferingtellsyourspirittotransfercontrolandattain“theresurrectionofthedead”●Whydoyoupray?Whydoyounotpray?15Theoppositeoffearisn’tsafety.It’slove.Thereisnofearinlove.Butperfectlovedrivesoutfearbecausefearhastodowithpunishment.Theonewhofearsisnotmadeperfectinlove.--1john4:18“perfect”=mature;completed;Attained16ephesians3:16-19Ipraythatoutofhisgloriousricheshemaystrengthenyouwithpowerthroughhisspiritinyourinnerbeing,sothatchristmaydwellinyourheartsthroughfaith.AndIpraythatyou,beingrootedandestablishedinlove,mayhavepower,togetherwithallthesaints,tograsphowwideandlongandhighanddeepistheloveofchrist,andtoknowthislovethatsuprassesknowledge--thatyoumaybefilledtothemeasureofallthefullnessofgod.17HowdoIdevelopresilience?YourMIND&SPIRITcangrowfromsuffering.Whatareyourshapinginfluences?●Yourworldview●Yourfamilyoforigin●Yourtraumaticlifeexperiences●Yourfaithcommunity●Yourleadershipexperience●Yourpersonality●Yourdreams●Yourcopingmechanisms●Yoursinstruggles●Yourverbiage●YourrelationshipwiththeHolySpirit18Howtodevelopresilienceduringsuffering●Acknowledgeitsexistence;don’tdownplayit○Don’tsayyou’re“fine”whenyou’renot●Respondwithempathy,notdistress,tosomeoneelse’ssuffering(empathy=action;distress=avoidance)○Say“WEaregoingtogetthroughthis,”not“YOUaregoingtogetthroughthis”or“Iamgoingtogetthroughthis.”●Haveself-compassion,notself-pityorself-indulgence○Ownyourmistakes&makerestitution○Keepajournalwhereyou’rehonestwithyourself●Ifyoucan’tchangeasituation,changeyourself●Takebackjoy--SherylSandberg&AdamGrant,OptionB19Philippians4:4-7REjoiceintheLordalways.Iwillsayitagain:rejoice!Letyourgentlenessbeevidenttoall.TheLordisnear.Donotbeanxiousaboutanything,butineverything,byprayer&petition,withthanksgiving,presentyourrequeststogod.AndthepeaceofGod,whichtranscendsallunderstanding,willguardyourheartsandyourmindsinChristJesus.●“Rejoice”=beglad,thrive,bewell●“Gentlespirit”=equitable,fair,reasonable●“Transcends”=riseovertop,surpass,besuperiorinpower&authority●“Guard”=standwatchover20Resilience:yourmindcangetstuckintrauma●Stayinginasurvivalstaterewiresyourbraintonormalizetrauma;yougetstuckthere,mentally&physically●Findoutwhataffectsmyphysiology○WheredoIfeelaheaviness?○DoIhavesustainedanxietyorfear?○DoIstrugglewithbitterness?○AmIdistracted,discouraged,ordepressed?●Findoutwhatsupportsmyphysiology○Whatrelievestheheaviness?○Whatmakesmefeelimbalanced?21Resilience:howtogetun-stuck●Whatareyoutellingyourselfaboutyourlife,circumstances,andyourself?●Recognizetheheavinessandtheresultofquitting○Yourconnectionstoevents,people,expectations●Traceyourheavinessbacktoitssource○Seeacounselorortherapist○Readaboutyourissues○StudyScritureaboutyourissues○Prayaboutchanging&growing●Re-organizeyourlifetoreduce/eliminateheaviness○Planrest&revitalization○Refineyourfriends&familycircle○Re-evaluateyourprioritiesinlife○Developaroutineforpersonalspiritualgrowth●Getamentororaccountabilitypartner22ephesians4:1-3,7Iurgeyoutolivealifeworthyofthecallingyouhavereceived.Becompletelyhumbleandgentle;bepatient,bearingwithoneanotherinlove.Makeeveryefforttokeeptheunityofthespiritthroughthebondofpeace….buttoeachoneofus,gracehasbeengivenaschristapportionedit.
ClicktoaddtitleClicktoaddsubtitleMadeforresilienceThewhat,why,&howtosurvive&thriveinsufferingSueSchlesman,ROAR2011ClicktoaddtitleClicktoaddtextWhatareyoutryingtopressthroughrightnow?Thewhat,why,&howofresilience1.Whatisresilience?2.WhydoIneedresilience?3.HowdoIdevelopresilience?Whatisresilience?●ThepowerorabilityofaMATERIALtoreturntoitsoriginalform,position,etc.afterbeingbent,compressed,orstretched●TheabilityofaPERSONtoadjusttoorrecoverreadilyfromillness,adversity,majorlifechanges,etc.●TheabilityofaSYSTEMororganizationtorespondtoorrecoverreadilyfromacrisis,disruptiveprocess,etc.Colossians1:11Beingstrengthenedwithallpoweraccordingtohisgloriousmightsothatyoumayhavegreatenduranceandpatience,&joyfullygivingthankstothefather,whohasqualifiedyoutoshareintheinheritanceofthesaintsinthekingdomoflight.ClicktoaddtitleResilienceistheacceptanceofsuffering&theadaptationtoit.Whydoyouneedresilience?It’showyourBODYadaptstosuffering.Yourbodycopeswithpain.●Youaregeneticallywiredtoheal●Youhavenaturalsurvivalstrategiestohandlefear,grief,pain,shock,&trauma:○Fight○Flight(fight&flightarehomeostatic)○Freeze(sympathetic)○Fawn(forcodependency)●Yourbodyautomaticallyrespondstotraumawhenyouperceiveathreat;yourbodyiswiredtohelpyougetthroughtraumawithoutthinkingaboutwhattodo●Sustainedsufferingcreatesaheavinessinyourbody&mind
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